We’ve been married for 18 years and he walked away and stepped into another life like our life together meant nothing, like it never mattered. Then a few days later he admitted to multiple someone else’s. A few days later he admitted there was someone else. I didn’t think much of it, and only mentioned it in passing. I thought everything was fine, until I found a women’s sweater in my husband’s car. I know you can do the same!! If you ever need someone to talk to, I am available.Hang in there! It always works out if you really want it to.Patrick But now I’m moving on and building MY life again. I cried many nights into my pillow and I could not sleep for the first few months. Life is far too short and precious to be a victim. Yes it hurt, and I did not want to give up on our marriage, but the reality is that its over, and I must move on. It may be difficult on many levels, but I realized I deserve so much better in life. I had to start looking at this as an opportunity for me to really start living into who I am. However, I realized I have to be strong, not just for me but for our two boys. She started dating someone right away (that still hurts a lot), and what this has done to our kids really hurts too. She may be right, but when we separated, I had to move out of the house our little family was so happy in. Well she decided to give up on us by saying our marriage had run its course. We certainly had our issues, but I was convinced they were not so bad they couldn’t be worked on. I was married 15 years to a beautiful woman and we have two amazing young boys (10 and 7 years old). Hi Brian,While reading your post, it brought to the surface the emotions I had gone through, and still am. Does counseling help? Support groups? Meeting someone else? i have no idea what to do w/myself…i am lost and alone.

I feel like I’ve failed…a marriage that lasted less than two years, a house that is filled w/memories of her and us (that i have to live in and be reminded of her 24/7) that I now live alone in, and a future that doesn’t look so bright anymore. I feel like I am losing my mind…seriously. I have little to no appetite, I burst out in tears at the drop of a dime (w/no control whatsoever) and I can’t stop wondering how we got to where we are today. It doesn’t feel like her life has been interrupted at all, while mine has been turned completely upside down.

I sit here in agony, in the empty house that we once shared, taking care of our dog while going through the most painful emotions that I have ever felt.Īnd it angers me that she is ok w/this decision, that she can move on w/such ease and that she has found a safehaven at her parents house. It really makes me wonder if she ever loved me in the first place. It amazes me how my wife (or soon to be ex-wife) can walk around and continue life like getting this divorce is no big deal and that our marriage was literally meaningless.

Husband said hes glad when im away